🦄 Hey Unicorn, ADHD nervous systems are highly sensitive to stakes. And expression can feel dangerous. Creation can feel paiiiiinful! When something starts to carry: identity weight belonging weight visibility risk emotional consequence Executive function drops. Freeze rises.Avoidance looks like “digging heels in.” It's a threat response. Your brain isn’t saying “I can’t.” It’s saying “This costs too much energy to move safely.” That's information. If you are stuck, avoiding...or digging your...
3 days ago • 6 min read
🦄 Hey Unicorn, I am not interested in resolutions this year. Or any year. I’m interested in what actually steadies you when life is happening. That’s why I’m sharing a simple, powerful practice below: ADHD-friendly AF easy to use & works even when energy is maxed-out or low We’ll also gather as a community later this month to explore the practice together! This space + practice for the month exists to support your energy as the year unfolds... without forcing anything... and without adding...
17 days ago • 6 min read
🦄 Hey Unicorn, Remember in December when I said things were consolidating? That I was listening more closely...? That what I was building was evolving...getting clearer... In my last letter, I talked about the Year of the Snake and what it actually asks of us...shedding what’s no longer true. This is the moment you find out how I put ALL that shedding energy to use. 🥁🥁🥁🥁🥁🥁🥁 ANNOUNCING... ✨ ADHD Energy Strategy ✨ That’s what this work is called now. 🎉 And the method underneath it...is Energy...
24 days ago • 6 min read
🦄 Hey Unicorn, This year ended things...thoroughly. I didn’t know that was what was happening while I was inside it. In hindsight, it all makes sense. In Chinese astrology, this is the Year of the Snake...a year known for subtle + quiet pressure, identity shedding...and for endings that don’t ask permission. I started this year by packing for a keynote speech. Big room...big responsibility. The moments in life where you know this will shape what comes next. The night before I was supposed to...
about 2 months ago • 4 min read
🦄 Hey Unicorn, I grew up loving a man whose brilliance and destructiveness lived in the same body. My uncle Doug was loud and jolly. Big and muscly. Huge energy. He’d walk into a room and move straight through it...bumping shoulders, laughing from the gut, talking to everyone + taking up space like it was his birthright. You didn’t NOT notice him. You couldn’t... This newsletter is a Shadow Work Guide for Women Who Love “Projects” + a warning for anyone who ever confuses devotion with...
about 2 months ago • 11 min read
🦄 Hey Unicorn, We’re talking about the boundary breaches that take slowly leak your energy + chip away at your mental + emotional capacity. Not the obvious ones. The hidden ones... The ones that come wrapped in kindness and excuses that make perfect sense. “I’m so sorry, I totally forgot.” “I didn’t realize it mattered that much.” “I had such a crazy week…” “I promise it won’t happen again.” And then it happens again.But...it's not because these people are malicious. It's because you’ve...
about 2 months ago • 5 min read
🦄 Hey Unicorn, Your nervous system is preparing. If you’ve been feeling... a little flat a little foggy a little tired a little tender a little overstimulated before anything even begins… This might be your nervous system bracing for the marathon that holidays tend to be. It makes complete sense... You’re about to carry: the sensory overwhelm the emotional load the logistics the caretaking the kids the hosting the cooking the clean up the noise the family dynamics the expectations the...
2 months ago • 2 min read
Last night at that Black Moon Lilith event, I was reminded (once again) that our seasons are meant to be honored. Every zodiac sign has a literal season. Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. A rise and a fall. A bloom and a descent. Just like our menstrual cycle...just like the moon...just like every living thing with a pulse and a rhythm. Nature shares the same truth over and over. Everything real + alive moves in cycles. Everything has a season. And as we move into late fall, into the darker and...
2 months ago • 2 min read
Heyaaaa Unicorn, May I unzip my heart and let you in today? Preparing for the BOLD Women’s Summit (that happened this Tuesday) stretched my whole system in every direction. No kidding... Two weeks ago, I was sobbing...doubting... my face, chest + throat were covered in itchy, red hives... my amygdala worked overtime...sleep was light... mind was racing...thoughts would not stop... fears rose and crashed inside my body... And, I was sweating constantly. The night before BOLD, I had to take a...
2 months ago • 6 min read